Assuming the All Axle motor would be suitable for her ...
No external speed sensor, it's built into the motor
Wires usually go on the underside of the stay, and you try and color match the ties and wraps required. It's not going to be an invisible setup, you're really just trying to minimize the obvious changes.
Like most road bike conversions I would initially consider using a bottle style battery - these are usually available in the 300w range. Some bottle batteries also include space for a controller.
One alternative to the bottle style battery would be one of the smaller capacity Hailong battery cases with the integrated controller - typically in the 500w range. Visually this would however scream eBike. Mounting would be on the downtube and would likely require an offset mounting bracket such as the Grin triple Bob. This type of bracket would also add stability and strength to the battery and put less stress on the threaded attachment points.
Another battery alternative is a custom setup with a small frame bag, either below the top tube or a triangle bag. Visually quite stealthy but likely wouldn't be available with any certifications.
There are small 22.5mm diameter standoffs from a variety of sources available to mount a variety of items on the larger diameter drop bars, this does require some real customization as there are a number of factors involved (finger reach to external buttons, individual taste, size of display, etc.).
Personally I would instead of the All Axle motor consider a smaller lighter non thru axle hub motor (Shengyi SX or Bafang 310 or similar) and use the required small adapter nuts for mounting a QR hub in a thru axle dropout. This will also need some real customization to get everything to fit properly (additional spacers/washers, torque arm mounting, cassette position, disc brake rotor positioning, etc.). A torque sensing bottom bracket would also be appropriate, likely also requiring a different spider/crankset. I doubt anyone has this exact configuration so there won't be any guidance, it will require some serious trial fit work.
Assuming everything is mounted correctly you'd have a wonderful custom road/gravel bike with mild/moderate e assist. You wouldn't damage the bike's feel (same geometry, gearing and fit) but would be carrying 10-15lbs more in weight.