Here's how I think through it: the standard method for a threadless bike setup is you tighten that top cap bolt to pull the fork into proper headset adjustment, not too tight, and on your bike that cap would be the RockForm so the bolt tightens the Rockform too. Once you have the headset adjusted you tighten the stem bolts that clamp stem to steerer, and now the stem clamp is what is holding your fork in and maintaining your headset adjustment. On a regular bike, you only keep the cap/and bolt in place so you can re-adjust the headset out on the road if needed, and perhaps for a back-up holding your fork in your bike in case your stem bolt(s) failed (unlikely but backup is always good). In your case you'd also ride with cap and bolt in place because the cap is your RockForm.
If your fork does loosen when your RockForm/top-cap loosens and flips around, I'd be concerned you're not clamping the stem properly after adjusting the through bolt. Because on a regular threadless set up, the fork should not loosen if the top cap loosens (or even is removed) as long as the stem is properly clamped to steerer.
However, on your bike with the Delta steerer extender installed (into?) the steerer, there may be something else happening--perhaps the fork is moving relative to the Delta Extender if the Extender installation is not preventing that? Even in a regular threadless set-up with no Extender, you do not want to rely on the top cap (in your case RockForm) and bolt to be the thing that holds the fork in place as you ride. That's the stem clamp's job. I would think that would be even more true (not relying on the top cap/RockForm) if you also have a jointed steerer, which is what I'm assuming the Delta Extender in your steerer produces(?).