People can't generalize on the fact we all want to go fast (>25mph). That's simply not true. When talking about "best", or the way it should be, you need to define your mission (commuting for instance).
I do agree though, that any benefit gained by a gear driven motor is starting to disappear long before speeds like that (>25mph) are attained - for a lot of reasons.
Something I don't think has been mentioned is the fact that DD motors can be wound for different missions. They can be all about low speed torque, all about mid range, or high speed. In many cases, they can be ordered to turn a specific rpm when wide open (540 rpm for instance, mid range). If we compare a relatively low speed wind to a gear driven setup (take your pick rear or mid), some of the big advantages of the gear driven system start to fade. DD motor we see in production bikes may already be using that science (derated to achieve torque?).
Last, not a purist or off road fanatic, and I don't notice the heavier rear end on my DD bike, as compared to a 700c Trek I was riding before converting to e-bikes (unless I'm lifting it!). My opinion, as a non commuter, riding cuz I want to.