Is that attitude really that common?
Could be a regional thing, but something you said...
I ride with the local gravel group
In the 12+ years I've been riding a bicycle in my area, I've only ever come upon one "group" of riders and that was this time last year. They were from out of state, and were struggling up a hill. I politely asked to pass, powered up past them, got some "damn I wish I had one of those", and rode on. Seemed nice enough folk, which was a change from what I'm used to encountering geared up the way they were.
We don't have groups here near as I can tell, certainly not that I've encountered. It's rare to even see a pair of riders that aren't a couple.
What we do have an abundance of is guys on non-motorized road bikes barreling along at 25+ not giving a s*it about anyone or anything in their way. And to be frank, they're as big a bunch of jackasses as the coal rolling pickup truck drivers with the gun rack their underage girlfriend can hold onto as they shtup in the parking lot before she's dropped off to pledge to Kappa Kappa spank-me.
As a friend said, "Jason, you paint pretty pictures with words."
It's part of why the people kvetching about 20mph and throttles pisses me off, because e-bike riders seem to be older more conscientious than these 20 and 30-something pricks in their glorified 1980's ladies athletic wear, $20 more in gear away from wearing leg warmers, giving cyclists a bad rep with the locals.
It's kind of a local joke, you see spandex, you see a {string of expletives omitted}. Just like other penis extensions like oversized gas guzzling pickups or walking around Walmart with an AR... just the polar opposite in terms of societal norms.
Whilst we have plenty of normal every day people out for a solo or couple's excursion, who are plenty friendly and reasonable. People who will stop, shoot the s*it, ask questions about my ride (it does stand out)... but nothing i would call a "group".
It's just the more "bike specific gear" they're wearing or the fancier their bikes are from a "competitive" standpoint, the bigger a turd of a person they seem to be. I'm sure somewhere in the world riders decked out such are completely decent people. I just happen to not live there.
Didn't stop me from stopping to help one such rider who wrapped his tricked-out ultra-light 700C ground carver around a tree because he hit a patch of sand. And since I'm on an e-bike, I pack a full medical kit in my front bag. Second time in a month and a half I've come across riders in distress.
If I'm riding with a mixed group, I try and avoid dusting everyone on every climb. I just adjust assist until I'm hanging with the pack and getting a good workout and ride. A few times the gravel group has pushed me to attack a climb just to see what the ebike can do and I'm happy to oblige, but its not something I go out of my way to do.
That must be nice. Around here it feels like there's a bit of "every man for himself". If there are local riding groups, I've never seen them on the major trails. And since I put three to five hours a day in on those trails (two batteries, two trips out) no, you'd think I'd come across them eventually.
I'm struggling to find just one other biker who fits my rotating time schedule, just because riding off 15-20 miles into the woods isn't safe alone at 3AM.
Doesn't stop me...
The only group I know of is the local family health clinic's one, and they are all have so many problems they give up after a mile. To them the distance between the clinic and my street is a "giant trip"... when it's 1.6 miles each way. I'm still warming up even on my regular bike, they're ready to turn around... :/