Jeremy McCreary
Bought it anyway
- Region
- USA
- City
- Carlsbad, CA
At least she wasn't an elected official, I guess. I've been pretty lucky with neighbors, but some of the others I've met in retail or service environments seem to spend their entire lives being as hostile as possible, even if there is no benefit to them in it at all.
Doesn’t make any sense to me, but there they are.
Unfortunately, doesn't have to make sense to these folks. The final temperament that emerges in your mid-twenties is the one you'll have for life. The research is clear: It's about 50% genetic, 40-45% peer influences, and 5-10% upbringing.
Your temperament controls your behavior through your emotions. You can try not to act on the dangerous and anti-social ones, but some just don't have the strength, and some don't even try.
Not saying that these folks deserve a pass on their bad behavior. Just that it's generally neither transactional nor fixable in the sense that the underlying emotions can somehow be improved.
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