Old thread, but...FYI, I have been riding hub motor eBikes for a few years now. I just purchased my first mid-drive motor eBike, and, for me, it's not something I'm enjoying. Besides breaking two chains within the first mile I rode the bike - two weeks in the shop between breaks - I don't like the way it shifts and how much work you have to do. the hub motor is all about just kicking back and riding. I leave it in the highest gear - 7th - and just pedal easily - but not too easily - and use the throttle at the same time. Now I have to sell the mid-drive eBike cuz it'll cost a fortune to send it back, and to get it boxed to ship. not to mention the hassle. Ugh.
I definitely understand where you're coming from for what it's worth I eventually ended up really liking and enjoying my mid drive. I was ready to ship it back but I had made a post in the Biktrix form where I continued this conversation and got a lot of tips specially about programming. When I contacted the owner because I was ready to ship it back I didn't care how much it cost me. When I shifted in the middle of a major intersection with a car making a left waiting for me to pass and I paused because of the shift, I was done.
The owner asked me if I wanted to try disabling the shift sensor before returning and so of course I did. This solved that issue with the motor cutting off and causing a pause during a shift. However I still have to be careful with shifting I just made a habit of getting up off the seat as my "pause" when I shift and then continue pedaling. However I have so much fun with it that I don't mind and don't even think about it just happens naturally now.
Then I did a bunch of changes. I replaced my chainring from a 44t to a 52t. I was always so used to the 52t from my rear hub. So this brought back my similar cadence, pedaling feel and speed. Otherwise on the 44t I felt like I was sitting there spinning my wheels. I hated it wasnt used to it all.
I haven't broke any chains yet or hade any other mechanical issues since I've had it. I might be at 500 miles now not sure.
Then I had to get a bafang programming cable and got a lot of help from, my post in the Biktrix forum. I had to change this dangerous stock throttle setting of "balls to the wall" to a smooth acceleration. Now I don't wheelie from take off or on the middle of a hill when I hit the throttle for a little help. I also made a bunch of other programmimg changes such as throttle, pedal assist, etc to get everything tuned to my liking.
Out the box I wasn't happy with it at all. Now I love it but, it took quite a bit of messing with it. This thing is a freaking rocket. I know not everybody is into having a speed racer but I have a lot of open areas here in CO but anyway it's a blast. I still have my rear hub and it's more of my commuter and the mid drive is my speed racer.
The thing is though I still like my rear hub so much and it's speed still surprises me does 30mph on flat easy. It's interesting how a 750w rear hub motor is actually really similar in performance speed wise to a 1500w mid drive. I mean you can tell the difference don't get me wrong. I go up the steepest hills with my mid drive smooth as butter. I can go up with just assist and momentum without having to hit the throttle. On the rear hub it doesn't have the same power, it will go up the same hill but I will need to be on the throttle and you can feel the drop in power or need to put in a little extra effort.
The rear hub was plug and play and having fun out the box and it's half the price of my mid drive.
Not sure if that helps. I'm not sure what kind of bike you got and if you can make such programming changes etc.